Stop being discouraged. What to do if you are depressed. Find a higher purpose

What to do if motivation is over, terribly tired and no strength to move on? Each of us reaches a point where we stop and begin to fade. How to find the goal again and start moving forward?

Remember the guy who said "Che is depressed"? This state periodically covers all of us. What to do if the motivation is over and there is absolutely no strength to move on?

It seems to me that a depressed man, or an emergency, as I call him, is practically a hero of our time. The endless race brings us to the point where the inner light begins to barely smolder. One day my colleague, who finished a big and complex project that sucked all the juice out of her, lay down on the sofa, folded her arms and said: “How tired everything is. My world is gone."

I think that people who are driven by some Super Purpose, or Higher Purpose, are much happier than everyone else.

Find a higher purpose

Sometimes "calming down" occurs because the motivation for external benefits no longer works. My friend Albert, having earned the amount he dreamed of, finally became “despondent”. There was nothing more to strive for.

At first he bought himself everything he wanted, but this did not fill the inner void. Then he decided that travel would "save" him. Albert traveled half the world with his family, but he quickly got bored. “They say correctly: “Traveling is a paradise for fools,” he said, returning after another trip.

As a result, an article fell into his hands, which stated that in 20 years, scientists will be able to extend life with the help of biotechnology for a hundred years. And Albert was hit. He realized that this thought really turns him on. “I have always been interested in creating new technology, but when it comes to extending the life of people, this is what gives me strength!” - he said.

Having a Higher goal is always a win-win option against boredom. Fly to Mars, prolong human life, rid the world of hunger and war, change the lives of millions for the better, invent a teleporter, discover a source of energy, save animals from extinction - this is our way!

Of course, it is not at all necessary to go into some global matters. It is enough to start with what surrounds us: to build normal schools for our children, to make our city beautiful, to equip roads that we can drive on without fear of losing a wheel.

But anyway, it all comes down to one thing. Need to…help others. Psychologist Sonya Lyubomirskaya with colleagues from the University

California conducted a study on happiness. They found out that helping other people makes us happier, more harmonious and whole.

I really like the story of a guy named Adam Brown. He received a prestigious education, experience in hedge funds and went to a successful career and a high salary. But one day he came to India and made friends with a beggar boy. When Adam was about to leave, he asked the boy: “What do you want more than anything in the world?” And the boy answered: "Pencil".

Adam turned this story around. Of course, he gave him a pencil, and later founded the non-profit organization Pencils of Promise (“Pencil of Hope”). As a result, Adam traded his successful career for a big dream - to educate the children of the poor - and in five years he built about 250 schools around the world.

When people come to me and complain about their "trouble", I always send them to help someone.

Life hack from a depressed billionaire

I was recently told a story about a depressed billionaire. He had a special case: he worked hard, donated money to charity, everything went well in business and in the family. But the world went out for him.

They tried to “reanimate” him in various ways, but then smart people advised me to do something like this: start a diary and write letters every day for your 12-year-old son, explaining to him how everything works and according to what laws the world, business, relationships live. And give these records to your son, for example, on his 16th birthday, when he will already enter adulthood.

And he wrote every day for several months. And this again gave him strength: thanks to the diary, he once again properly understood himself, streamlined his knowledge, made them accessible not only to his son, but also to his grandchildren and the whole future family.

By the way, my friend has been keeping such a diary since the first birthday of her daughter and plans to give it to her for her 18th birthday.

For me, this story is also about the transfer of knowledge. When someone gains knowledge and experience and does not share them, all this beauty begins to “go out” in the head, and the person falls apart. So at a certain moment, in order for the fire to ignite again, one must become not only a student, but also a teacher.

By the way, all these ways to find motivation come down to two goals. First, to embody your fantasies, challenge and not be afraid. Secondly, to find the Highest meaning and leave behind something more than a couple of apartments.

Summer outside the window in the capital region this year is not happy. Cold, rain, clouds, wind. On such days, we become insecure and especially vulnerable.

Take a look around - how many gloomy and angry people who, hiding under umbrellas, walk with their heads down about their business.

The dependence of weather and human condition has been studied for centuries.

But one thing is certain: if a person's eyes burn, they burn both in rain and in slush.

But what to do if you are depressed? If there is no sun, not only on the street, but inside yourself?

But what to do if you are waiting for something bright, unusual, waiting for summer - but it does not happen?

If everything is tired, nothing lights up, monotonously boring and predictable?

In this article we will tell you how to color your everyday life, if everything is known in advance, for several decades to come.

To get started, try doing the simplest exercise: go outside, watch your posture, smile lightly and walk forward down the street. But do not hide your eyes from passers-by, but look around. Interested in studying.

I call it "the look of a child".

Take a look at the signs, posters, passers-by. Find something unusual and atypical. Count the smiling people, count the sad ones.

In general, if something does not suit you, there are three options: put up with it, leave or change.

So what to do if the eyes are dimmed and nothing lights up?

Repentance is very sad. You can put up only when all the following steps have been taken and nothing has helped.

Breake down. You can drop everything and leave. But it is only important to know that wherever you go, you take yourself everywhere with you. And where is the guarantee that extinct eyes will not follow?

Change. But how? What to do? And how do you know what will happen?

I use the "IPO" model for change. It consists of three steps:

Step 1 Start using something different than you haven't used

Lack of new, predictability - the first cause of despondency.

So the first step is to start doing things differently.

Coming to work differently than usual. We walked one route - go another, rode the subway - use ground transportation, always on personal transport - take a bike, usually by bus - pamper yourself and order a taxi.

If you usually take food with you - do not take it, if you eat in a cafe or canteen - dine elsewhere. You usually order lunch or lunch - take and choose what you want from the menu.

It is important to understand that such small changes add some intrigue to life. When we allow ourselves not to do “as usual”, but to listen to what we want.

It is possible and necessary to spend the weekend DIFFERENTLY than usual, atypically for yourself or your family.

If usually the weekend is cleaning and a walk in the park, you can take and choose a hotel for two days in a neighboring city or even in your own, in another area.

Usually the weekend is a house and a TV, which means you can take a car, an electric train and go to a neighboring city where you have never been.

Haven't invited guests for a long time - gather your friends and invite everyone you know. Play board games.

Usually you always do the house cleaning yourself - invite a cleaning company employee, and while your house is being cleaned, just read a book.

Cook at home more often - order food home.

And if you usually eat in a cafe or fast food, find recipes for unusual second courses, a cake and bake a cake yourself.

Change your daily routine, change your habits.

It is important to remember only one thing - to start doing something new, you just need to stop doing something old.

After all, life is too short to put it off until tomorrow.

Step 2 - Embrace Progress

Change will come into your life even if you do nothing.

• The children will grow up, finish school and leave you.
• Employees and bosses will change at work.
• Summer will change into autumn, and autumn into winter.
• You will celebrate another birthday every year.
• Will change inflation and the government, prices in stores.
• And you may not be involved at all in order for all this to happen.

Change will come on its own. But more often than not, change does not please us. They just happen to us.

Controlled changes, as well as what gives a person the energy of joy, are called progress.

You can manage the progress in your life. Progress is a new achievement. This is a new profession or a new height.

Lack of progress is the second reason for discouragement.

To make progress, a person must develop and grow.

To do this, you can find yourself a new hobby, sign up for various creative courses, for example:

• Cutting and sewing
• Learn the basics of modeling women's panties
• Dancing
• Playing guitar
• Drawing
• Mastering a new profession

You can start learning something new, master a new computer program (for example, a video editing program or Photoshop, or maybe master a program for creating mind maps and planning).

You can study languages: English, French, Spanish.

You can say "yes" to a morning run or douche - and this will be progress.
You can try yourself in a new business and learn how to create and edit videos - this will be progress.

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Step 3 - Environment that moves you forward

Progress in life often begins with a change in environment. Tell me who your friend is, and I'll tell you who you are - it's not without reason that this wisdom has been around for so many years.

It is believed that if you take the average monthly income of all the people with whom you communicate closely and divide by the number of people, then the resulting value will approximately correspond to your income.

There is a special practice - to communicate more often with people who earn more than you, and then your income will also begin to grow.

So where to start working with the environment? First, let's figure out who it consists of.

The crowd are observers who may or may not give advice.

But for the most part, they don't care about you. You don't have to give anything to them or take anything from them. Let them watch.

Close people are family.

These are our other halves, children, parents. In fact, they just need to be accepted and loved. No need to ask them to understand you or vice versa, to teach something. These people are the most sensitive to any changes in your life. And your mood and their mood are always interconnected.

Like-minded people are people who understand you, and you understand them.

You can teach them something, or vice versa, learn yourself. It is necessary to communicate with like-minded people as much as possible, strengthen ties, take off with them. You can take advice and criticism, ask and answer.

Teachers.

This is not about school teachers, but about people who are way ahead of you in your dreams or goals. These are the sages, or those who can navigate the path faster and more reliably.

There was a wise man in ancient times. He had many followers and many learned from him. And then one day two of his students argued among themselves. One claimed that he could ask the sage a question that would baffle him. The second said it was impossible.

Early in the morning the first disciple went to the field and caught a beautiful little butterfly there. He held it in his palms so that it was not visible.

He came up with a trick to defeat the teacher: “I will ask him if the butterfly is alive, which is in my palms. If he says no, then I will open my hands and she will take off. If he says yes, then I will crush her and, opening my palms, he will see only her lifeless body. So he will get into an awkward situation, and I will win the argument.

A student came to his sage teacher and in the presence of everyone asked him:

“Master, is the butterfly in my palms dead or alive?”

- All in your hands…

Sometimes in life it seems to us that the people around us, the events taking place, and so on, are all either black or white. But the real world is multicolored.

Many fairy tales and parables speak of wise men. About the teachers of our life, who open their eyes to many things. Teachers may be completely absent from some people's lives. And this inevitably affects the fate of man.

You don't have to love a teacher. He needs to be heard and listened to.

The ballast is people who are constantly pulling back.

Who criticize your ideas or desires, comment on your actions, eat up your time or your energy, take advantage of you by drinking to the bottom.

Of course, the ballast must be disposed of first.

So how do you work with the environment to your advantage?

Ignore the comments of the crowd, love and appreciate loved ones without changing them, increase the number of like-minded people, find a teacher, get rid of the ballast.

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To determine how to correctly write the prefixes pre- and pre-, you need to learn to distinguish what lexical meaning they attach to a particular word. This is in most cases.

Because there are some words that you just need to remember or check in a dictionary.

Prefixes pre- and pre-. Their semantics

1. The prefix pre- means:

a) The highest degree of quality (action) with the meaning "very" or "very". For example: much, exaggerate, elderly.

b) The meaning of the prefix pre- is practically the same as that of the morpheme re-. For example: overcome (overpower), block (block), transform (rebuild).

2. The prefix at- means:

a) adding to something. For example: surcharge, addition.

b) Approaching or being close to something. For example: suburb, coastal.

c) An action occurring at the same time as another action. For example: sing and dance.

d) Incomplete action. For example: open, sit down.

e) The perfect form of the verb, formed from the imperfect, if its meaning does not change. For example: beat-nail, think-think.

More examples

Eloquently testify to the need (for the correct spelling of words) to distinguish what the prefixes pre- and pre- mean, the examples below. To despise (shelter) and despise (consider insignificant, unworthy), arrive (arrive) and stay (locate somewhere), give (add) and betray (change), receiver (device that receives electric current, etc.) and successor ( heir), proceed (start) and transgress (violate), pretend (cover) and transform (realize).

However, there are words in which the prefixes pre- and pre- have an unclear meaning. For example: freedom, neglect, habit, welcome, sentence, adventure, picky, apply, decent, swear. This also applies to words of foreign origin: privilege, drug, president, priority. Their spelling should be checked in a dictionary or memorized. In addition, there is a group of words in which the prefixes pre- and pre- were singled out as a separate morpheme, but now they are not. These include: object, advantage, limit, contradict, pass over, seduce, obstacle, punctuation (signs), bicker, obstacle, satiate, notorious, stumbling, disgust, fastidious, device, order, comely, primitive, decent, take communion, claim , affection, reason.

Spelling: prefixes pre- and pre-

The rule again depends on the semantics of these morphemes.

The meaning of prefixes	Examples
The prefix pre- means:
"very", "very"		prosper, calm, fine, downplay
the same as the prefix re- (“in a different way”, “through”)		endure, change, transient
The prefix gives the following meaning:
addition		dowry, profit, appendage
approximation		arrival, attachment, counter
incomplete action		lift up, hold up, hold up, hold down
formation of the perfect form of the verb from the imperfect with the preservation of the meaning of the word		to run, to sew, to come up
an action happening at the same time as another		to speak, to smack, to slap
doing something for someone		save, hide, embellish