Human mental balance. How to achieve harmony in life
A person's happiness is determined by many different factors. However, its basis is internal harmony. It can be described as the absence of any contradictions in oneself. The real key to prosperity and harmony must be sought not through the external conditions in which a person is forced to live, but within himself. It is absolutely necessary to engage in your spiritual development. Literally translated from Greek, harmony means order, connection, agreement, correspondence, proportionality. Harmony brings together many different elements into unity. Thus, harmony personifies the connection between opposing factors and properties. If a person is in harmony with the whole world, then this can be considered as the greatest value. His entire life depends on the degree of harmony of a person. The level of internal harmony will also determine relationships with people around you. Conduct this experiment for yourself. Just watch two people. One person should be harmonious, and the other should not. Now think which one is most pleasant to you. It is obvious that a harmonious person will receive your sympathy. Those people who lack inner harmony often have flaws in appearance. Their environment, work, and leisure time need obvious changes.
On the contrary, an internally harmonious person will literally radiate love as for himself. It will also affect those around you. Usually such people are very calm. They are truly able to enjoy own life and enjoy the little things. Harmonious people can be called self-sufficient. Such people will not stoop to gossip or criticism of someone. You will not hear any dissatisfaction from them. Such people will not assert themselves at the expense of others. Peace will be visible in the eyes of a harmonious person. When you are around such people, you will definitely feel their boundless charm and strength. Other people will purely intuitively be drawn to a harmonious person. After all, they convey special wisdom and true knowledge. Only harmonious people will have desires that match their capabilities. How can you bring your state closer to a sense of harmony? Where exactly should you start if you understand that it is harmony that you lack? The beginning of finding inner harmony should be your work on yourself. At the same time, you must strive for self-improvement. And it is impossible without personal growth.
What exactly do these words mean? To find harmony within yourself, it is absolutely necessary to completely understand yourself. This can be done by developing your abilities and talents. Carefully analyze and understand what exactly is preventing you from becoming a completely happy and joyful person right today. To do this, answer yourself personally this question: who I essentially am and what exactly I want. These questions and answers that you can give yourself are very important. If you dream of harmony settling inside you forever, and not for a limited period of time, then you need to be prepared to work hard and thoroughly on yourself and your own internal qualities. Inner harmony, like others personal qualities, will be developed through relationships with others. After all, we do not live separately on our own, but in society. For this reason, we have to constantly enter into relationships with those around us and people close to us. The source of inner harmony is self-love. Only by understanding and accepting your own personality will you be able to make your inner feeling harmonious. In ancient times, the call to know oneself was given the meaning of absolute truth. Many people, out of ignorance, try to find harmony through the acquisition of material external goods and elements of everyday life.
But you must understand that harmony is entirely a spiritual category. And it is impossible to achieve it through specific material things. This path cannot lead to the desired results. On the contrary, material wealth and their quantity are a consequence or reflection of a person’s spiritual life, in particular a sense of inner harmony. To make it clearer exactly how to achieve harmony, it must be said that it is better not to achieve it or strive for it, but to discover it in yourself. Nature created any person initially harmonious. Therefore, it is natural for everyone to be internally harmonious. Remember how children behave. Children are the personification of inner harmony, and it would do well for adults to follow their example in this regard. By connecting with your inner nature and fully understanding your values, priorities, attitudes and attitudes towards other people, you achieve a kind of deep understanding. This, in turn, creates the prerequisites for internal harmony. Remember how you behave if the situation does not turn out the way you wanted. What are you trying to do in this case, what emotions, feelings and thoughts appear in your head? If you are used to being angry and indignant in such circumstances, showing irritation and experiencing dissatisfaction, then know that it is impossible to resolve difficulties and conflicts effectively with negative emotions. If you want to find inner harmony, first of all, you need to learn to react to problems absolutely calmly.
Try to resolve conflicts through a constructive approach, avoiding the emergence of negative emotions within yourself. It should be taken into account that in the process of life we have to communicate with people who are at different stages of development of their own consciousness and soul. But this communication also affects us. If the person with whom we have to communicate is not internally harmonious, then it is important for us to find our own source of love and peace. Otherwise, conflicting feelings may also form in you, especially if you are already on the path to finding harmony. It is recommended to also look within yourself for the source of peace and love. This way he will be independent of the behavior and attitude of other people towards you. Also try to monitor the appearance of the slightest negative feelings within yourself. You should never dive into them. Thus, the secret of achieving harmony within oneself lies in the fact that it is necessary to create such an interaction of the mind, soul and impulses of the heart that will be balanced. Live in accordance with the promptings of your heart and the mood of your soul, then happiness, love and harmony will remain with you forever!
Calmness and order, general peace of mind are the desired states of every person. Our life basically goes on a swing - from negative emotions to euphoria, and back.
How to find and maintain a point of balance so that the world is perceived positively and calmly, nothing irritates or frightens, and the present moment brings inspiration and joy? And is it possible to find lasting peace of mind? Yes, it's possible! Moreover, with peace comes true freedom and simple happiness to live.
This simple rules, and they work religiously. You just need to stop thinking about HOW to change and start APPLYING them.
1. Stop asking, “Why did this happen to me?” Ask yourself another question: “What great happened? What good can this do for me? There is goodness for sure, you just need to see it. Any problem can turn into a real gift from above if you consider it as an opportunity, and not as punishment or injustice.
2. Cultivate gratitude. Every evening, take stock of what you can say “thank you” for during the day. If you lose peace of mind, remember those good things that you have, and what you can be grateful for in life.
3. Exercise your body. Remember that the brain most actively produces “happiness hormones” (endorphins and enkephalins) during physical training. Therefore, if you are overcome by problems, anxiety, insomnia, go outside and walk for several hours. A quick step or run will distract you from sad thoughts, saturate your brain with oxygen and raise the level of positive hormones.
4. Develop a “cheerful posture” and think of a happy pose for yourself. The body can help remarkably well when you need to restore peace of mind. It will “remember” the feeling of joy if you simply straighten your back, straighten your shoulders, stretch happily and smile. Consciously hold yourself in this position for a while, and you will see that the thoughts in your head become calmer, more confident and happier.
5. Return yourself to the “here and now” state. A simple exercise can help you get rid of anxiety: look around, focus on what you see. Start mentally “sounding out” the picture by inserting as many words as “now” and “here” as possible. For example: “I’m walking down the street now, the sun is shining here. Now I see a man, he is carrying yellow flowers...”, etc. Life consists only of “now” moments, don’t forget about it.
6. Don't exaggerate your problems. After all, even if you bring a fly close to your eyes, it will take on the size of an elephant! If some experience seems insurmountable to you, think as if ten years have already passed... How many problems have you had before - you have solved them all. Therefore, this trouble will pass, don’t dive into it headlong!
7. Laugh more. Try to find something funny about the current state of affairs. If it doesn’t work out, then just find a reason to laugh sincerely. Watch a funny movie, remember a funny incident. The power of laughter is simply amazing! Peace of mind often returns after a good dose of humor.
8. Forgive more. Resentments are like heavy, foul-smelling stones that you carry around with you everywhere. What peace of mind can one have with such a load? So don't hold a grudge. People are just people, they cannot be perfect and always bring only goodness. So forgive the offenders and forgive yourself.
10. Communicate more. Any pain hidden inside multiplies and brings new sad fruits. Therefore, share your experiences, discuss them with loved ones, and seek their support. Don't forget that man is not meant to be alone. Peace of mind can only be found in close relationships - friendships, love, family.
11. Pray and meditate. Don't let bad, angry thoughts control you and cause panic, pain and irritation. Change them to short prayers - an appeal to God or to meditation - a state of no-thinking. Stop the uncontrollable flow of self-talk. This is the basis of a good and stable state of mind.
Who among us doesn’t want to wake up free, happy and natural, with love in our eyes for ourselves and the world around us? Enjoy yourself and all the joys of a multifaceted life that captivates you into the unknown? Yes, precisely to enjoy the fact that you are the one and only, divine creature worthy of the best.
Change yourself, love yourself - and the world around you will change. We have heard these words more than once. But is it so easy to love yourself? And why, when we hear derogatory remarks addressed to us, do we agree with them, taking everything personally?
Such voices of “other people’s grandmothers,” like echoes of past childhood, for a long time, and sometimes throughout our lives, deprive us of the joy of being ourselves. A kind of defensive system is triggered, protecting the sensory world, but depriving the joy of the feeling of one’s “I”. Self-love is sometimes associated with other people's love for us.
Dependence on other people's opinions and assessments is perhaps the main reason for our dislike. How can we get rid of the opinion about ourselves imposed on us from the outside and love our own “I”? I want to offer you some advice, in my opinion the only correct one, as a way out of a difficult life problem - “dislike for yourself”, so that you finally remember the exciting dance of life.
1. “I am loved and valued as much as I love and value myself.”
This phrase should become the only correct motto of life on the path of self-love. You yourself can become a source of joy and love.
2. Nobody is perfect
Remember the words from the movie Some Like It Hot: “Everyone has their own shortcomings.” Love yourself for who you are. Never allow yourself to be humiliated.
3. Don't compare yourself to others
You are special and unique. Loving yourself means treating yourself with love.
4. Accept your flaws
Weaknesses in some situation can shine brighter than strengths.
5. Improve yourself
You always have a chance to improve. Loving yourself means constantly working on yourself.
6. Don't worry about what others think of you.
They themselves are concerned about what you think about them. Form your positive opinion about yourself.
7. Praise yourself even for the smallest successes
Repeat to yourself: “I’m just lovely!”
8. Act on your inner motivations
Then there will be no feeling that you did something against your will. Respect your thoughts, desires and dreams.
9. Try to make your own decisions
This way you can appreciate your own importance and independence.
10. Be yourself
Say and do what you think is necessary. At the same time, of course, without infringing on the interests of others.
And then your eyes will sparkle, and a smile of happiness and love will shine on your face, and you will be transformed right before your eyes... You yourself will become a source of love, joy, light and strength. You will live in harmony with yourself. You'll see, you'll succeed! You will become the most beautiful in the world. You just need to be at peace with yourself. Both with yourself and with the world around you.
Improve yourself and look for yourself! After all, only by understanding ourselves can we accept ourselves. Loving yourself and enjoying the joy of life is as natural for a person as the flight of a bird in the sky. This world is for you, this life is for you, and therefore love is for you!
Returning from a protracted summer holiday, I would like to once again warmly greet the readers of this blog with great pleasure, Artem Bukanov is with you.
For today’s topic, I decided to choose a reflection on the question of how to find harmony with oneself.
Most people need this incredibly badly to .
Before you begin to find this very harmony, perhaps you first need to decide what harmony is and what it consists of.
Everyone understands that it is possible to find harmony with oneself only in the soul, and that no “magic pills” will help with this.
So, let's decide how we can find inner harmony. And here everything is incredibly simple
- Live the way you like
- Do what brings you pleasure
- Have the opportunity to be yourself - the real one, and not who society wants you to be
For those who doubt the correctness of this statement, I would like to immediately draw attention to such a useful thing as the protective reaction of our body.
With different stimuli, the result is different, but nevertheless one general direction can be traced in it. When you get sick, your body fights the virus: elevated temperature, runny nose are typical signs of illness.
With our psychology, everything is similar: unreasonable aggression towards the environment, apathy, depression, and - clear signs that you are not doing your job.
You are not lazy to do what you like, right? Because first of all.
How to find “your groove”?
After we have decided on the reason that prevents us from living a full life, little by little the realization of the need to look for “our own” comes. How can you find it if until recently you had no idea that you had lost something? Let's go in order:
- Eliminate all the noise in your head
We are looking for ourselves, right? Therefore, we immediately dismiss all this chatter from others about stability, fashion, “everyone lives like this,” “this is how it’s accepted,” “what will others think” and “Oh, God, are you even normal?!”
Only “your” way of life will truly bring you pleasure, and not imposed patterns of behavior.
- Finding your Self
Absolutely every person has his own calling - something in which he will feel like a fish in water. You usually do this well and enjoy doing it.
If you can’t immediately determine “your” occupation, then remember what you loved to do as a child - it is at this time in life that we are not yet burdened with obligations and choose activities to our liking. Drawing, music, sports, science - it could be anything.
- Take action!
You shouldn’t sit and wait for the weather by the sea, do what brings you pleasure, and not what you do out of necessity. Even if you have lost all your skills (or maybe you didn’t have them at all), just start anyway, and then you will see for yourself how things will improve.
Thinking is more important than impulsiveness
This statement, of course, does not apply to everyone, but its importance is worth thinking about for everyone. As our ancestors said, and they knew a lot about things: “Think first, then do!”
Therefore, you should not rashly quit work, study, etc., starting new life. No! Just gradually direct your energy towards improving your life circumstances by introducing into it what you are truly interested in.
In addition to the “activity you enjoy,” it is also important not to change your views and principles, because moral prostitution, forgive me, is not the best ally for self-sufficiency.
A - no less important quality to find harmony than others.
So, we have learned how to find harmony with ourselves, and what we need to pay attention to in this case.
Be sure to share your opinions in the comments, tell your friends and stay with us, see you soon!
Always with you, Artem and Sasha
Today people are exposed to overload and stress like never before. Nervous tension is familiar to almost every modern person, but not everyone knows that there is a very simple way to take control of your thoughts, achieve inner harmony, become calmer and happier.
Professor of clinical psychology Mark Williams and doctor of biochemistry Danny Penman talk about this method - mindful meditation - in detail in the book “Mindfulness” (Mann, Ivanov and Ferber publishing house). We publish several ideas from it.
In search of lost time
Weekdays modern man too overloaded. We are constantly in a hurry, we manage to do a lot of things during the day, but in the end we don’t even notice how time passes. The older we get, the faster the weeks and months fly by. But you can miss your whole life this way!
With age, we accumulate habits, learn some patterns of behavior and do not change them for years: on autopilot we wash ourselves, have breakfast, go to work, sit in the same place, return home, watch TV. It is difficult for us to simply look around and experience the present moment.
If you want to slow down the passage of time, learn to be present “here and now” and enjoy every moment.
To get started, try a simple exercise. Buy a chocolate bar and break off a small piece. Place it on your palm and examine it carefully, pay attention to the color, curves, texture. Inhale the aroma. Now put this piece in your mouth. Don't eat it right away, let it melt on your tongue for a long time. Try to feel the whole bouquet of tastes, and then slowly swallow the chocolate.
If you just ate a bar on the go, it would be a completely different experience, wouldn't it? Exactly the same awareness can be demonstrated in any action: when you brush your teeth, go to the office, go to the store. Don't forget to change your habits from time to time. Do you watch TV every evening? Try reading instead. Do you always choose the same chair at meetings? Sit in a different place next time. Do you always walk along familiar streets? Change your route, visit unfamiliar areas of the city.
Goodwill
Modern people are accustomed to comparing themselves with others, evaluating them and constantly engaging in competition, in which there are certainly worse and better, their own and others. However, this is a bad habit. The tendency to judge others and oneself this way can lead to endless self-flagellation, fear of rejection, or a feeling of being surrounded by enemies.
You need to learn to look at others more kindly. To feel your connection with them, do a “friendly” meditation.
Sit on a chair in a comfortable and warm place. Straighten your shoulders. Feel tenderness and love for yourself. Mentally say the wishes: “May I be happy,” “May worries leave me,” “May my life be filled with joy.” Then imagine someone dear to you and wish him the same. Then think about the stranger. And finally, focus on someone with whom you had to conflict. Try to feel love and sympathy for him, wish this person goodness, happiness, and deliverance from troubles.
Analysis and suppression
Psychologists have noticed that in recent years, depression has become more common among people. What is this connected with? We live in stressful conditions, and all of us are visited by anxious thoughts about the future or unpleasant memories. This can be triggered by a feeling of guilt, an irreparable mistake in the past, an unresolved conflict, fear of not meeting other people's expectations, and various social fears.
We want to get rid of obsessive thoughts, so we try to understand the reasons for our condition. However, endless analysis will definitely lead to a dead end. The longer we think about something sad, the worse we feel. The fact is that thoughts always influence emotions, and negative emotions, in turn, provoke even more bad thoughts. We need to get out of this vicious circle.
As a rule, avoiding unpleasant memories, we extremely generalize our experience. That is, we constantly experience a feeling of melancholy or guilt, but we do not realize what exactly it is connected with. This is what prevents us from truly letting go of the past. When we make a final assessment of an event and “forget” about it, we deprive ourselves of the chance to look at what happened from a different angle. Instead, we simply drown in painful emotions.
If repression and analysis are equally harmful, then how can we overcome anxiety and intrusive memories? The “sounds and thoughts” meditation is perfect for this purpose.
Find a quiet place where no one will distract you. Sit on a chair and straighten your back. Shoulders should be relaxed. Concentrate on your inhalations and exhalations, then on the sensations throughout your body. Try to experience peace. After this, turn your attention to the sounds that surround you. Listen to rustling noises, voices, music, traffic noise and the like. Don't think about the sounds or try to determine their sources. Just listen to how some sounds are replaced by others.
After a few minutes, focus on your thoughts. Treat them in the same way as sounds that arise and dissolve without your participation. Let them flow calmly and replace each other, watch this process as if from the outside. Imagine that you came to the cinema, and your memories, ideas, imaginary problems, and so on flashed on the screen. Under no circumstances should you be an actor, so remain in the audience until the end of the “session.”
If you learn to see the similarities between thoughts and background sounds, you will never be a slave again. own brain. You'll realize that you don't have to listen to everything that's running through your head or try to suppress the memories. You will be able to calmly observe thoughts as if they were an interesting phenomenon that does not affect your feelings.
Body and emotions
Have you ever noticed what a depressed person looks like? He walks slowly, hardly using his arms. In this case, the torso practically does not move up and down, mainly movements from side to side predominate. Also, people suffering from a depressive disorder stoop and lean forward when walking.
It is easy to conclude that the mental state affects the body. Surprisingly, research has shown that this is a two-way process: the body also influences our thoughts and emotions.
Don't believe me? Try a little experiment. Lower your head, clench your shoulders, frown and stay in this position for a couple of minutes. Do you feel like your mood has begun to change?
Psychologists Fritz Strack, Leonard Martin and Sabine Stepper decided to investigate this relationship. Scientists showed participants in one of the experiments cartoons, and at the end they asked them to rate how funny they were. The first part of the group had to hold a pencil between their lips while watching it so as to frown. The second one was watching cartoons with a pencil between her teeth, imitating a smile. As a result, those who "smiled" found the cartoons much funnier than those who frowned. It turns out that even a simple smile can be an effective cure for despondency.
